Thursday, October 8, 2009

Talking to myself

Society dictates a certain moral code that limits what we can say or do if we want peace and "no drama" I often find myself riddled with many Ally McBeal moments.  So, this blog is really more like a narrative of a conversation (or series of conversations) I've had with myself, some of which I may have already shared with a few friends.

When I see you in a social setting and I give you a hug and/or kiss you on the cheek, does that mean I am into you?
Ugh!  It means that I like you enough as a friend that you are allowed that much "intimacy" with me.  And don't go looking for more or you will freak me out and I will avoid you like the plague!  Trust me, when I am into someone, I don't rely on body language.  I tell the guy or gal I'm into him/her.

In relation to this setting it is actually a good thing if you are a girl 'cause I am more affectionate with girls than I am with guys.  But I suppose that's the way it is with most girls, eh?

Why don't I call you or pick up your calls or return your calls?
It could be one of any of the following reasons:
  1. I am not uber attached to my phone so when I am home it is usually somewhere in the house.  It could be in my room or on one of the tables downstairs.
  2. When I am in class my phone is on silent mode, if it is not off.  When I am in school, my students have dibs on my time.  The only calls I ever accept in school are from my daughter and from my boss (our department chair).
  3. I don't want to talk to you.
  4. I don't feel like talking to you.
  5. I feel that nothing you say right now could possibly be of interest to me right now.  If it is so darned important and you can't get me to pick up the call then text it to me.  I will get to it eventually and will text you back when I can.  
  6. Whenever I receive missed calls that are not followed by a text message I assume that the call or message was not that important so there is no need for me to return the call at all.
If I hang out with you a lot does that mean that I like you?
Er, no.  It just means that I enjoy your company most of the time.  Don't read anything into it that isn't there.

If you say something and I just get quiet what does that mean?
It means I was brought up properly.  My mom and dad taught me that if I didn't have anything good to say, it is better to just say nothing.  This also applies with humor.  If you said something that you thought was funny but I didn't agree with or, perhaps, I didn't grasp the humor of, I'll just keep quiet, and, if I can manage it, I will smile.  It is the polite thing to do, right?

This conversation is cut short for now.  Will blog again at another time with more conversations.